Confession: I screw up a lot. I think I’ve taken care of something and I actually haven’t. My confidence that I have a plan is thwarted by a lack of research. I say stupid things to people I love or respect and replay the scene in my head on repeat for years.
Giving myself grace in the wake of these events is difficult.
We all make mistakes. Our friends and colleagues have messed up in myriad ways over the years and we can pretty much always forgive them or see why it’s not really so bad.
Our own mistakes, however, seem to loom large in our memories.
My plea to you is this: find a way to give yourself some grace and move into 2018 without the weight of your foibles from 2017 dragging you down.
Here are some strategies to help you out.
Start writing down everything from 2017 that is weighing on you mentally. What did you want to accomplish that you didn’t? How did events play out differently than you imagined? Who do you feel you let down?
Whatever it is, name it clearly. Just put it out there and look at it. Say it out loud. Take full ownership of it.
I believe that we struggle to give ourselves grace for the mistakes we refuse to fully own.
Identify the Lessons
The good thing about screwing up or not accomplishing all of our goals is that we always learn from these situations, if we are open to it.
What did you learn from your mistakes? How are you a better leader because of how these situations played out? Who or what do you better understand in the aftermath?
Seek out the silver lining and express gratitude for the lessons.
I mean this in a very literal sense. Say the not-so-good thing that happened (or didn’t happen) out loud.
Take full ownership of how you contributed to the problem/outcome.
Thank the person or situation for everything you learned.
Declare that you forgive yourself and will take what you learned and use it next time.
Then actually let it go…for real. This is where genuine grace comes in.
Empower yourself with a mental device to help you out when the attachment to negative thinking around your mistakes comes up. Have a mantra you start saying like, “I forgive myself for my mistakes and I use what I learn to do better.” You can also have a mental image you call up and meditate on for 30 seconds.
2018 is full of opportunities to learn and grow…even from your mistakes! This will only happen if you give yourself grace and choose to see problems as opportunities.
Want to do some planning to help you feel prepared for 2018 and have a successful spring semester?
Join us for the Spring Semester Planning Party on January 4th!
This two hour webinar will walk you through the steps of reflecting on the fall semester and planning for the spring semester.
You also get access to the Visionary Leadership Planner and a lifetime membership in the BeeLine Resources Community when you register!
(Already a member of the Resources Community? You get to join the webinar for a $20 discount!)
Set yourself up for fewer missed goals and more big wins in 2018. Join us for the Spring Semester Planning Party on January 4th from 3pm-5pm* MT!
*This webinar is recorded for those who cannot attend live.